What makes a ‘good mum’?

Are you a good mum? What makes someone a good mum?

I was asked this question a few days ago and to be honest, all I could think about was what DOESN’T make a good mum. I have a whole list of things I know we DON’T need to do to prove ourselves… and then I saw this fucking ridiculous quote

and I knew I was right:

You don’t need to look like a hot mess if you don’t want to.

You don’t need to give up baths and salons and manicures and lashes (not happening kids, sorry).

You don’t need to stay at home and gaze at your children all day.

You don’t need to spend every dollar on your children and nothing on yourself.

You don’t have to stop having fun without your kids around.

You don’t have to stay at home every night.

You don’t have to be the *only* person to care for your child.

You don’t have to pretend you hate going to work.

You don’t have to love (or even like) every minute of being with your children.

You don’t need to stop talking about yourself.

You don’t need to make your life harder.

You don’t need to put yourself last every goddamn day.

You don’t need to be a martyr. You don’t need to be sensible all the time. You don’t need to be boring. You don’t need to be serious. You don’t need to be MISERABLE. You don’t need to be #GRATEFUL AND #BLESSED. You don’t need to please your children all the time.

You are allowed to care for yourself and make yourself happy. If that means going to get a massage in the middle of the day, going for drinks with your friends at night or going away for a whole weekend without your kids – it doesn’t make you a bad mum.

Are your kids happy, loved, safe? Good job, mum, you’re amazing!

And I bet your kids have never once said, “jeez I wish my mum would stop getting haircuts”

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